The truth is that most of us do not function in relationships the way God intends. We carry with us such great amount of fear, operate with such guilt and shame and most of all are masters of this game called rejection. We reject others based on their education, background, colour, character, attitude and wealth just like how others reject us. We play this game so well that we became masters of it ourselves. Instead of facing our emotions and dealing with them ,we hide them. We sweep them under the carpets and pretend as long as we don't see them, they aren't there. Only to have the dust accumulate under the carpet to creat a bump that one day when we walk over that bump, we fall.
We often forget that conflict stems from the heart, and unless the heart is changed, the problems will never be resolved.
Proverbs 4:23 encourages us to guard our hearts, for out of the heart flows all the issues of life. These issues include selfishness, greed, hate, murder, adultery, etc., all of which originate in the heart before manifesting themselves in the open.
Proverbs 4:23 encourages us to guard our hearts, for out of the heart flows all the issues of life. These issues include selfishness, greed, hate, murder, adultery, etc., all of which originate in the heart before manifesting themselves in the open.
Adam claimed his independence in the Garden of Eden. Ever since that time, people have been trying to put the pieces of life's puzzle back together on their own. For example, broken relationships, infidelity,alcholism, and abuse are all evidence of our need to turn to our heavenly Father to make out lives work. While the world says, "Exercise- that'll fix it," Take a vacation- that'll fix it," or "Do this and take that and go there, and it'll all work out", what we really need to do is take the same advice that God once told us - Go back home. go back to dependence on our Creator, who knows better than ourselves. He can fix our mess. That's where a person who is God fearing and who understands the principles of God's word and knows how to apply them to meet human needs. We were not created to fix our own problems. All of us have limited capablities. We can only do so much to rectify the pain in our lives. The truth is that we were created to be constantly dependent upon an all-loving, all-caring God. We were not created to be self-sufficient.
So the truth remains, no matter how hard I try to solve the mysteries of my heart and others, there is always the unanswerable questions. The questions that remain open for anyone to solve. anyone ready to take up the challenge to dive into the sorrows, troubles and heartaches of others , tear it all apart, analyse it and put the pieces back together - to make it all a picture perfect. No one has been able to do that for me. No one has been able to give me profound answers to my questions and no one has been able to put the pieces. They take one look at it and say, "this is for you to deal with". To much fear? Lack of courage? Or simply just not their calling...?
Didn't I ask You not to trust me with so much to handle? The hope that I am tougher or stronger by your trials and tribulations each day will crush You. It's better not to hope. Expect me not to be able to pick the pieces up on my own while I promise You I won't sweep the dust underneath the carpets.
So my question remains - when and How, Lord?
